ARE YOU STILL RECOVERING FROM A DIS-EASE OR FULFILLING YOUR DREAMS?

The difference can be as simple as the words you use to identify yourself. Hi, I’m (insert name here) and I’m a recovering addict. I hear this over and over from people who are years removed from substance abuse. People identifying themselves as recovering addicts although the obsession or desire to use hasn’t been alive for years. I used to …

How To Go From Hopeless Addict To “Clean and Super” in 30 Days Or Less

“One moment of genuine insight dispels eons of ignorance and confusion” -Lama Surya Das My original title idea was “How to go from hopeless to dopeless in 30 days or less. I thought that was clever but it’s not the message I want to share. Although the first step is putting down the dope or abstaining from the behavior, the …

Alcohol Has Opened Many Doors For Me

As I watch my former state of New Hampshire’s politicians squabble over how they will allocate a minuscule portion of the revenue generated from alcohol sales to substance abuse programs, I can only laugh at the absurdity. As you enter the beautiful state you’ll find big bold State Liquor stores in the rest areas of its interstate highways. Their logic …

Dancing with the Beast…8 Ways to Deal with Overwhelm

I remember the countless times when I’d get a little clean time under my belt and start feeling pretty good about myself. I’d go through some 30 day treatment program or have a couple months of 12 step meetings behind me and the fog would begin to lift. All I could see was butterflies, unicorns, and rainbows in front of …

When “Happy” is Outside Your Comfort Zone.

Maybe happiness ain’t all it’s cracked up to be…at least in the beginning. “Misery loves company,” by comparison, isn’t so demanding, and doesn’t leave you with the risk of roaming the streets with a big, foolish smile…alone. Suffering is easy. Not the suffering itself, but the practice and familiarity of suffering. It’s a guaranteed context for life, and most of …

Not Getting What You Want? Give Her What She Needs.

You deserve a fucking phone call. And a helluva lot more, in my opinion. Greg Behrendt is a call-it-like-it-is, no-BS kind of guy, and I can relate to that. Maybe because I’ve gotten comfortable being uncomfortable. His book of bite-size, even biting, quotables that followed the book He’s Just Not That Into You keeps women fueled by to-the-point reminders of …

Another Dog’s Purpose

“We keep what we have, only by giving it away”-Narcotics Anonymous A Cheyenne storyteller once said, “Stories are gifts. It is up to us to give and receive them.” Today I am going to be on the giving end of storytelling. Some stories just need to be told. Yeah, it’s a break from my normal “recovery” topics, but sometimes big …

No You Can’t Touch My Breasts.

Recovery has so many components to it — mental, emotional, spiritual, physical — and we are constantly jammin’ with one, more or all of them at any given time. Beyond the initial detox experience, recovery doesn’t focus much on the physical aspect of life as an addict. It’s a ton of spiritual work, cozying up with our Higher Power, and …

“I Learned It From You”: How to Help Your Child With Their Addiction

“F@#K YOU!” “Damn it!” “Go to Hell!” “****!” Out of the mouths of babes! There are rites of passage familiar to every life and every role in life. And I would venture a hallucination that, if you are a parent, you vividly remember the first time you heard your pre-K child blurt out some little gem from The Sailor’s Handbook …

Rewriting Your Story-3 Ways to Love a Vampire

  Rewriting Your Story 3 Ways to Love a Vampire One of the most important parts to a good story is the supporting cast. When creating our own story it’s important that we populate our world with loving, supportive people and release the toxic ones. The first part to this process is determining which ones are which. We do this …