5 Ways To Help Your Marriage Survive Your Child’s Addiction

Marrying your mother was my first choice and if I have to choose between the two of you, I choose her. These were the words my father said to me when I was 14 years old and I still remember every sight, sound, and smell from that moment as if it was yesterday. I also remember the smorgasbord of emotions …

3 Things You Should Know About The Past

“I’d like to take your inner child and kick his little ass”-Don Henley of The Eagles It seems like there are a million quotes about letting go of the past and rightfully so. It’s one of the greatest challenges for people, at least in the space I work in. In my years of addiction and recovery I’ve lived through and …

Are You Feeling Stuck? What’s Your Story?

There is nothing that’s good or bad, only thinking makes it so -William Shakespeare It seems that every time I go on social media I see another famous quote from Shakespeare and it made me wonder… Why do we give the same value to a man who wrote fiction as we do to others whom we revere as our great …

ARE YOU STILL RECOVERING FROM A DIS-EASE OR FULFILLING YOUR DREAMS?

The difference can be as simple as the words you use to identify yourself. Hi, I’m (insert name here) and I’m a recovering addict. I hear this over and over from people who are years removed from substance abuse. People identifying themselves as recovering addicts although the obsession or desire to use hasn’t been alive for years. I used to …

How To Go From Hopeless Addict To “Clean and Super” in 30 Days Or Less

“One moment of genuine insight dispels eons of ignorance and confusion” -Lama Surya Das My original title idea was “How to go from hopeless to dopeless in 30 days or less. I thought that was clever but it’s not the message I want to share. Although the first step is putting down the dope or abstaining from the behavior, the …

Alcohol Has Opened Many Doors For Me

As I watch my former state of New Hampshire’s politicians squabble over how they will allocate a minuscule portion of the revenue generated from alcohol sales to substance abuse programs, I can only laugh at the absurdity. As you enter the beautiful state you’ll find big bold State Liquor stores in the rest areas of its interstate highways. Their logic …

Dancing with the Beast…8 Ways to Deal with Overwhelm

I remember the countless times when I’d get a little clean time under my belt and start feeling pretty good about myself. I’d go through some 30 day treatment program or have a couple months of 12 step meetings behind me and the fog would begin to lift. All I could see was butterflies, unicorns, and rainbows in front of …

When “Happy” is Outside Your Comfort Zone.

Maybe happiness ain’t all it’s cracked up to be…at least in the beginning. “Misery loves company,” by comparison, isn’t so demanding, and doesn’t leave you with the risk of roaming the streets with a big, foolish smile…alone. Suffering is easy. Not the suffering itself, but the practice and familiarity of suffering. It’s a guaranteed context for life, and most of …

Not Getting What You Want? Give Her What She Needs.

You deserve a fucking phone call. And a helluva lot more, in my opinion. Greg Behrendt is a call-it-like-it-is, no-BS kind of guy, and I can relate to that. Maybe because I’ve gotten comfortable being uncomfortable. His book of bite-size, even biting, quotables that followed the book He’s Just Not That Into You keeps women fueled by to-the-point reminders of …