Who Am I? How Did I Get Here? Who Are You?

Let’s Get Naked! I’m speaking figuratively, of course. As a 57 year old man with a ton of battle scars, exposing myself to you in a physical sense would not only be traumatic to you, but would be very counterproductive to my purpose for creating this blog. I do, however wish to be completely vulnerable and expose every other part …

5 Tips For Repairing Your Relationships With Your Children

Addiction wreaks havoc with every relationship in its path, and the closer the relationship, the greater the fallout. Probably no relationship has higher stakes than the parent-child relationship — the loss is so deep and personal (on both sides), and the risk to the child’s development and future is critical.   Your commitment to mending and improving the relationships you …

Scarred for Life, Addiction or Triumph

Scarred for Life Have you ever heard someone use the term, “scarred for life”? It always seems to come with a negative connotation. It’s as if we’re understanding it to mean “wounded for life.” The reality is that our scars represent something much more positive…healing. Whenever I see someone with an interesting scar I always wonder how they got it; …

Responding to Triggers

Early in my recovery it was suggested to me that I avoid people, places, and things that would trigger my fear-based thoughts which I allowed to lead me back to my addictions. While this worked OK for a little while, I soon realized that there were so many so called triggers in the outside world that in order for me …

8 Ways to Free Yourself from the Thoughts Holding You Back

Do you sometimes feel like your mind’s little bitch? If so, you’re in good company. I’ve never asked anyone this question and got a “no for a response and I’ve hung out with some pretty amazing folks in my day. Our subconscious minds have been programmed with crap since the day we popped our little heads out of our mommies. …

Do You Have a Syndrome?

It seems like nowadays we have a label or diagnosis for everything; everything negative, that is. I’m especially amused by the word “syndrome.” I looked it up in the dictionary and it’s defined as a group of symptoms that consistently occur together. After discovering this, it occurred to me that I have quite a few “syndromes”. I’d like to share …

Choosing to be Happy

Choosing to be Happy I just finished having another meltdown moment on the computer. It happens almost every time I go online. I’m convinced that some people just aren’t cut out for it and I’m one of them. I was trying to learn how to manage my email list through Active Campaign when it happened. I pushed a button and …

3 Words to Tell Yourself Every Morning

3 Words to Tell Yourself Every Morning Every morning when I first wake up I feel like I have this dark, scary cloud hanging over me. I’m not sure why that is because my life is pretty damn good. It’s as if this is the resting point of my mind. When I look at the self-talk behind the thoughts that …

My Happy Place

My Happy Place What you focus on expands, and when you focus on the goodness in your life, you create more of it. Opportunities, relationships, even money flowed my way when I learned to be grateful no matter what happened in my life.  –Oprah Winfrey Her name was Cindy M. and we were both 13 years old. She had jet …

Happy New Year

HAPPY NEW YEAR! 4 Reasons Why I don’t do New Year’s Resolutions I have never been successful at keeping a New Year’s resolution. I don’t think I’ve ever even made it through the month of January. Here are a few reasons why… 1) Assigning a future date on a decision to change says that I may desire change but it’s …