My Happy Place

My Happy Place What you focus on expands, and when you focus on the goodness in your life, you create more of it. Opportunities, relationships, even money flowed my way when I learned to be grateful no matter what happened in my life.  –Oprah Winfrey Her name was Cindy M. and we were both 13 years old. She had jet …

Happy New Year

HAPPY NEW YEAR! 4 Reasons Why I don’t do New Year’s Resolutions I have never been successful at keeping a New Year’s resolution. I don’t think I’ve ever even made it through the month of January. Here are a few reasons why… 1) Assigning a future date on a decision to change says that I may desire change but it’s …

CRY LIKE A MAN!

I’ve always been a man who cries a lot. We’ll never forget Congressman John Boehner. The Crier of the House. Well, I’m here to tell you he’s got nothing on me. Ever since I was a little boy I cried a lot. In fact I remember, at about 5 or 6 years old thinking there must be something wrong with …

Drawn to the Light

This time of year everything seems to slow down. The bears are getting ready to hibernate in the state I grew up in and all the trees are shedding their leaves and going into a similar state of dormancy. As I pull into my driveway at 6 pm I notice all the bugs gathered around my front door doing their graceful …

We are the Creators

Yesterday my daughter called me and told me she had relapsed and was now staying in a hotel with some other junkee she just met and getting high again. I immediately began running through the archives in my brain and pulled up all the thoughts I had created about what’s right and wrong and, just like that, I was feeling …

My Path To A Life Beyond Clean

     Personal Inventory: You may have heard this term before in a 12 step program but hear me out. I’m not talking about identifying my character defects or anything like that. I’m referring to a list of questions I asked myself while searching for the answer to why I was put on this earth. Surely it wasn’t just so I could …

One Question to Ask When Revisiting Your Past

“If my memory serves me…” How many times have you heard someone say that? The truth is our memories can’t do anything else but serve us. We have a choice about how we allow it to serve us but we can’t stop it from being our faithful servant no matter what we do. I remember the day my son, Rob, …

I Want to be the Tony Robbins of Addicts…But I Can’t

As a man who spent most of his life feeling “less than” and trying desperately to fit in, embracing who I was never occurred to me. After all what value could I possibly offer to anyone? High school dropout, drug addict, convicted felon, liar, thief, cheat. I was pretty sure these were not attributes that anyone was aspiring to achieve …

Making the Most of Your Mulligan

Make the Most of Your Mulligan As a golfing fanatic I’ve taken many mulligans in my day. For those of you who don’t share my passion for the sport I’ll explain the term. It’s simply a “do over” on my first shot off the tee. Sometimes I make the most of and other times I screw the second one up …

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A Little Clean Time, a “Get Well Job” and a Dream

I remember laying in my bed in the halfway house after an overnight shift at the restaurant. I was working as a short order cook at a breakfast joint in Boston. This was what we, addicts refer to as a “get well” job. I wonder if the “normal people” have any idea how much food and drink they consume that …