How to Meditate

I’ve had a lot of people tell me that they don’t know how to meditate. They’ll say things like, “there are so many different ways to do it so how do I know which one is right? Here’s my humble opinion: All of them and none of them. I don’t mean to sound like one of those mystics who never …

Spring Cleaning

It’s that time of year, again. Every spring my wife goes on this rampage like she’s possessed by some demon. She goes through our home like a white tornado and when she’s done there isn’t a square inch that hasn’t been sanitized, deodorized, or euthanized. Generally, I’m OK with that even though I’ve always preferred clutter. Clutter has always held …

Personal Inventory

In about 4 hours I’m walking into a room of about 50 people and sharing what used to be my deepest dark secrets. Today they’re just facts about my life experiences. I’m still a bit nervous (understatement) because public speaking to more than 2 or 3 people is a new experience for me. Any time we do something for the …

10 Questions I Ask Myself for My Most Meaningful Life

I have to admit, I hijacked these questions from a lady named Rhonda Hess. She’s a success strategist I found on line and she shares a lot of valuable nuggets on how I can make each day my most awesome. Every Sunday evening when I have to time to reflect, I do an inventory on myself for the previous week …

Are You Investing In Your Child

Are you investing in your child’s recovery or in their addiction? I’ve spent a lot of years going through revolving doors of addiction with my daughter. Between rehabs, apartments, treatment options, and everything else you can imagine, my former wife and I have spent a fortune of money and, more importantly, precious time (years) trying to help her fight this …

Delivering Value

Building relationships with mentors starts by you delivering value to them. This was a tough one for me. Coming out of years of addiction I wasn’t sure that I had much value to deliver to anyone. This is the “shame” component that goes along with being an addict. I’d spent so many years in isolation that I really didn’t have …

How I Trashed My Credit Score

Recently my wife and I made a decision to stop paying the mortgage on the home we lived in for 14 years. It was extremely difficult for so many reasons. Number 1 we had raised our 2 youngest children there for most of their lives. Secondly, it was a symbol of triumph for Kristin and I because when we met …

FINDING YOUR MOJO

I remember when I first started out on this awesome journey and people would ask me what I wanted in life. I’d say things like I just want to be happy or I want to have the freedom to live my dreams or I want to be financially independent. These are all great dreams to have but what does that …

FEELS LIKE THE FIRST TIME

I remember the first time I kissed a girl. Her name was Pam. I knew right then I was in love. I was going to marry her and spend the rest of my life with her. We were going to have three kids and live in a nice home in the country. I wasn’t sure where the kids would come …

Playing the Shame Game

I was at an event a while back where we were being trained for professional speaking. I was so excited because I’ve always wanted to be on stage making people happy. Originally it was a dream of being a rock and roll singer for some famous band but that got short circuited. I grew up believing strongly in sex and …