CRY LIKE A MAN!

I’ve always been a man who cries a lot. We’ll never forget Congressman John Boehner. The Crier of the House. Well, I’m here to tell you he’s got nothing on me. Ever since I was a little boy I cried a lot. In fact I remember, at about 5 or 6 years old thinking there must be something wrong with …

My Path To A Life Beyond Clean

     Personal Inventory: You may have heard this term before in a 12 step program but hear me out. I’m not talking about identifying my character defects or anything like that. I’m referring to a list of questions I asked myself while searching for the answer to why I was put on this earth. Surely it wasn’t just so I could …

What I Learned From My Toilet

Lately, I’ve been struggling with the physical part of my life. Diet and exercise are words that make me cringe. They always seem to involve some kind of sacrifice…giving up something that makes me comfortable. When I think back to all the years I struggled to get clean it was the same kind of feeling. All I could think about …

Spring Cleaning

It’s that time of year, again. Every spring my wife goes on this rampage like she’s possessed by some demon. She goes through our home like a white tornado and when she’s done there isn’t a square inch that hasn’t been sanitized, deodorized, or euthanized. Generally, I’m OK with that even though I’ve always preferred clutter. Clutter has always held …

Personal Inventory

In about 4 hours I’m walking into a room of about 50 people and sharing what used to be my deepest dark secrets. Today they’re just facts about my life experiences. I’m still a bit nervous (understatement) because public speaking to more than 2 or 3 people is a new experience for me. Any time we do something for the …

How I Trashed My Credit Score

Recently my wife and I made a decision to stop paying the mortgage on the home we lived in for 14 years. It was extremely difficult for so many reasons. Number 1 we had raised our 2 youngest children there for most of their lives. Secondly, it was a symbol of triumph for Kristin and I because when we met …

FINDING YOUR MOJO

I remember when I first started out on this awesome journey and people would ask me what I wanted in life. I’d say things like I just want to be happy or I want to have the freedom to live my dreams or I want to be financially independent. These are all great dreams to have but what does that …

FEELS LIKE THE FIRST TIME

I remember the first time I kissed a girl. Her name was Pam. I knew right then I was in love. I was going to marry her and spend the rest of my life with her. We were going to have three kids and live in a nice home in the country. I wasn’t sure where the kids would come …

Playing the Shame Game

I was at an event a while back where we were being trained for professional speaking. I was so excited because I’ve always wanted to be on stage making people happy. Originally it was a dream of being a rock and roll singer for some famous band but that got short circuited. I grew up believing strongly in sex and …

W.O.R.K is a 4 Letter Word

As part of my unlearning process I’ve decided to redefine some of the words that I use. Some of them need to be removed from my vocabulary altogether because they don’t serve me in any way. Words like “should”. “Should” is a word that I only use when I’m judging myself or others and I’m not qualified to be a …