I Thought Living A Sober Life Meant Giving Up My Manhood

As I reflect on the early days of my addiction recovery I’m struck by the things I was willing to give up to get clean. I truly was at the point where I was willing to do anything to make the intense pain go away. The failed marriages, lost relationships with my kids, and destroyed career opportunities were at the …

Sometimes A Man Just Needs A Good Blow Job

There hasn’t been any shortage of excitement in the southern US this fall as Mother Nature made many of us her cuckold for a couple weeks. She sent my wife, Kristin and I packing as Irma was bearing down on us with all the wrath of a woman scorned. Regrettably, we didn’t get a chance to cuddle after our encounter …

4 Myths You Should Know If You’re Struggling With Addiction

The truth…the whole truth…nothing but the truth… If there’s one thing I’ve learned on this journey it’s that there are very few absolute truths. It seems that every month I’m reading about a scientific fact that has been disproved with a newer scientific fact. Then there are those that are simply created to satisfy someone’s personal agenda of fame or …

Don’t Use Gratitude To Self Medicate

An attitude of gratitude may be the most powerful tool in my tool bag. That’s why I have to be very careful how I use it. There are still many mornings when I wake up feeling like I had a shit sandwich for bedtime snack the night before (and I’m not just talking about my breath). That’s why part of …

3 Laws You Can’t Break (but you can use them to serve you)

I was having a conversation with a bud the other day about the changing times and it led to the recent trend of legalizing marijuana across the country. I said, “go figure, they finally make it legal after we quit smoking” and his reply to me was, “Greg, if it was legal back then, you wouldn’t have been attracted to …

Are You Stealing From Your Non Addicted Child To Feed An Addiction?

I’m hallucinating right now, that some of you are thinking I’m going to share some story about stealing money from my kids’ college funds to buy dope or something like that. I guess you would be right even though I never actually created college funds for them, I’m guessing I may have, had I not been feeding my addictions at …

3 Things All Parents Of Adult Addicts Should Know

Hope for parents of drug addicts. As a man who has lived on both sides of the fence when it comes to addicts and parents of addicts, I can easily say that being the parent is, by far, the most painful of the two. As an addict, I shielded myself from my pain through self-medication while my parents experienced the …

How To Never Have To Ask, “Am I Relapsing” Again.

Am I relapsing again? I found myself asking this question repeatedly over my 25 years of recovery. Usually, it came shortly after some milestone in the 12 step program like getting a chip for time served or completing a certain step and patting myself on the back. It always began with a subtle warning. Maybe I’d tell a “little white …

Too Many Meetings? Signs You’re Someone Who Needs Recovery From Recovery

What Got You Here Won’t Get You There– Marshall Goldsmith A Man Who Needs Recovery from addiction? It’s been almost a quarter century since I walked into my first 12 step room. Admitting that I may be someone who needs recovery was one of the hardest things I’ve ever done in my life. Despite, having answered the popular discovery questions …

Why Getting High With Your Kids May Be Your Best Defense Against Addiction

5 Healthy Ways To Get High With Your Kids “When I use a word,” Humpty Dumpty said, in a rather scornful tone, “it means just what I choose it to mean-neither more nor less.” “The question is,” said Alice, “whether you can make words mean so many different things.” “The question is,” said Humpty Dumpty, “which is to be master-that’s …