I Want to be the Tony Robbins of Addicts…But I Can’t

As a man who spent most of his life feeling “less than” and trying desperately to fit in, embracing who I was never occurred to me. After all what value could I possibly offer to anyone? High school dropout, drug addict, convicted felon, liar, thief, cheat. I was pretty sure these were not attributes that anyone was aspiring to achieve …

Making the Most of Your Mulligan

Make the Most of Your Mulligan As a golfing fanatic I’ve taken many mulligans in my day. For those of you who don’t share my passion for the sport I’ll explain the term. It’s simply a “do over” on my first shot off the tee. Sometimes I make the most of and other times I screw the second one up …

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A Little Clean Time, a “Get Well Job” and a Dream

I remember laying in my bed in the halfway house after an overnight shift at the restaurant. I was working as a short order cook at a breakfast joint in Boston. This was what we, addicts refer to as a “get well” job. I wonder if the “normal people” have any idea how much food and drink they consume that …

Hansel and Gretel

Did the Birds Eat Your Breadcrumbs? Remember the story of Hansel and Gretel? They ventured into the woods one day on an amazing adventure. They were having a blast, exploring all the wonders of nature just living in that “zone” that we talk about. Then when it was time to return home what happened? They realized they were lost… They …

Sobriety Sucks

I remember the years I spent in the revolving door of recovery and relapse. I’d get a year or so under my belt and then go back out. Each time I’d drag myself back into another 12 step meeting carrying an extra load of guilt and shame with me each time. It would get so frustrating. I’d bang my head …

Wants Versus Needs

Recently I surveyed some friends to find out what their greatest challenges were today.  I do this for a couple reasons: It helps me to target where I can deliver value It enables me to realize I’m not alone because most of the time I have the same challenges. One of them was determining our needs vs our wants or …

The Doctor Says I’m Terminal

When I heard this news it startled me. I didn’t hear it from the traditional human doctor but from the greatest of all physicians…My Source. After my meditation this morning I asked for my message for the day…that thing that guides me with inspiration. I opened up a book I’ve been reading called The Obstacle is the Way and the …

Are You Investing In Your Child

Are you investing in your child’s recovery or in their addiction? I’ve spent a lot of years going through revolving doors of addiction with my daughter. Between rehabs, apartments, treatment options, and everything else you can imagine, my former wife and I have spent a fortune of money and, more importantly, precious time (years) trying to help her fight this …

Waking Up

As I begin to wake up it appears that the world around me is waking up with me. Are we living in a new era of enlightenment or has it always been like this and I was just blind to it? During my dark years I used to think that reality really sucked but today I know everything I thought …