If you really want to do something, you’ll find a way. If you don’t, you’ll find an excuse. – Jim Rohn
I might be one of the most naturally unorganized men on the planet. If you looked at my desk it would give you a pretty good idea of what the inside of my head must look like on most days.
Fortunately, there are people much smarter than me in this area who I can turn to for mentoring.
Let’s face it, the world is moving at lightning speed these days and there are a lot of things like finances, jobs, family, recovery work, etc. that take up a lot of our time. What most people fail to realize, though is that these things are usually NOT what’s holding you back from living the life you want.
We all have internal processes going on inside our heads that screw with our thoughts, emotions, and beliefs and they’re POWERFUL. In fact, if you don’t pay attention to them, they’ll derail you every time and we all know where that usually leads us.
Straight to F**kdom Come.
In my coaching program, 90 Days to Unf**king Yourself the first thing we look at is clearing our internal desks or closets by de-cluttering and tying up loose ends. Most people are amazed at how much time and space this opens up for them to do the things they’re passionate about.
Here are a couple of exercises I learned from mentors which have changed my life. If you’re willing to take an hour of your life and do them, I’m confident they’ll change yours too.
Exercise 1: De-clutter your brain
a.) Take 10 minutes to write down everything that’s causing you stress and worry. Think about what keeps you awake at night and what weighs you down first thing in the morning after you realize that awesome sex was just a dream. Make a big long list of everything no matter how trivial you judge it to be. If it’s in your head, it’s worth looking at.
b.) Next, go through your list and put an X next to everything outside of your control and a * next to everything within your control.
c.) Take everything that has a * next to it and write it on a separate page in order of importance.
Note: This list should only be 5-7 things and no more than 10. If you find yourself with more, narrow it down to 10 max and put the others on a separate page marked “later.”
These are the things you will put your focus on over the next several weeks or months that will get you the results you want.
d.) Go back to the items on your list with an X beside them and make a conscious decision to let go of them.
Go through each one and ask yourself, “Can I let this one go? Yes, I can release that.”
AND DO IT!
This is super empowering. It’s like Popeye Spinach for your emotions and self confidence. You wrote it down, you saw it was something beyond your control, and you made a powerful decision to let it go…DAMN!
One of the biggest blood-sucking vampires of our dreams is worrying about and trying to fix shit that we have absolutely no control over. By getting clear on which is which, you will free up an enormous amount of time to focus on the things you do have control over.
Exercise 2: Tie Up Loose Ends
The second biggest emotional drain that will keep you stuck comes in the way of untied loose ends. Maybe you remodeled a room and left the punch list undone or had an argument with a friend and didn’t make amends.
This shit will eat away at your dreams like a bunch of termites on a pirate’s leg.
a.) Take 10 minutes and write down a list of every area of your life ; each issue, project, relationship conflict, and any other commitments that are incomplete.
b.) prioritize them by which ones will give you back the most time and energy. Then make a decision to either complete it or let it go.
Hint: If it’s a conflict with a loved one or friend don’t just let it go. Go to that person and get closure. You may find your ego telling you how hard it is but, the weight you’ll lift from yourself will be worth it. Besides, the ego is just a bullshit artist anyway.
Often, the reason why we haven’t completed something is because we don’t want to look it square in the eye. It’s important to take an honest look at those things and see if the cost of leaving them undone is worth it. If not, just do it and be done with it. You have bigger and better things to think about for your future.
These two exercises are called high lifetime value activities that were taught to me by a very successful mentor of mine. They’re activities that you do once and they keep paying dividends long into your future.
When you eliminate the energy vampires and unnecessary worries from your life, you’ll find there’s plenty of time in your days to work on the things you love. Things like being present for your family, building a kick-ass business or getting yourself back in shape, being happy, whatever you want.
Stop procrastinating and take action today because that’s all any of us really have.