3 Lessons I Learned From Ozzy Osbourne

I’ll only retire when they put me in a pine box. Ozzy Osbourne. As a self proclaimed rocker, I’m a huge fan of Ozzy Osbourne’s creations. His songs with Black Sabbath spoke to my soul in my teen years and as I’ve gotten older I’ve come to prefer his ballads. Among my favorites are Mama I’m coming home and his …

Death Of An Addict. A Personal Screenplay

I Was So F**king Tired Of Relapsing I Decided To Kill Myself It took me a lot of years and a lot of pain to get there, but I was finally ready to just say fuck it. After all, how many times can a man say, “It’s different this time” before he realizes he’s full of shit? After two years …

What Every Man Should Know When She Says, “You Never Listen To Me.”

If you’ve ever had struggles in your marriage or relationship, chances are you’ve heard the words, you never listen to me. As a man with a story of many failed relationships, these words played like a broken record throughout the course of my past. It would get so frustrating when I’d sit there and listen to every word she said, …

How To Stop Letting Your Past Sabotage Your Future

“You’ve got one foot in yesterday and the other in tomorrow while pissing all over today.” I remember the first time I heard these words in a 12 step meeting. I thought it was kind of funny and kind of spot-on to how I was living my life. Regret from the past and anxiety for the future are the two …

The Recovering Man Learns To Love “Feeling The Burn”

If God sends you a mosquito, SWAT IT or He will send you a swarm. One of the terms we used to use for getting our dope was “scratching the itch.” Today, I see how this was so spot on to how I lived my life in that constant state of reaction to the outside world. I also see how …

A Christmas Wish From A Parent Of An Addict

Jolly Old Saint Nicholas Lean Your Ear This Way And Bring Our Addict Children Pain That Drugs Can’t Take Away I Never Thought I’d Ask For This Or See It As A Gift But Pain Seems To Be The Only Thing That Causes Us To Shift They’re Not Naughty They’re Not Nice Despite What Others Say They’re Just Lost And …

Sometimes Preventing Relapse Can Be As Simple As A Good Cry

Recently, I attended a men’s event where part of the training was around empathy. One man told a story about losing his son in a car accident while the man standing beside him wept uncontrollably. By the end of the story the other man was on his knees crying out at the top of his lungs. It struck me that …

Why Finding Your Why May Not Be As Important As Finding Your Who

Sometimes you have to look outward to see inward. Simon Sinek’s TED talks on finding your “why” have really inspired a lot of people including me. As I reflect on my journey as a recovering man I see that finding my “why” has been an important piece in both my victories and defeats along the way. There were many times …

7 Practices For Creating Your “Most Wonderful Time Of The Year”

How To Get Your Holiday S.W.A.G.G.E.R. On. Anyone who knows me, knows that I love challenging the status quo when it comes to how we define things in our culture. One of my favorite ways to do that is by redefining words in the language I use for my own self talk. Words are probably the most powerful tools I …

Be Careless What You Wish For

Care-less: (adjective) not giving sufficient thought to avoiding harm or error What comes to mind when you hear the word “careless?” For me it brings up other words like reckless, irresponsible, and shallow. All words that describe virtues that I was taught to avoid like the plague. Merriam-Webster will give words their commonly accepted definitions but, we all have our …