8 Ways to Free Yourself from the Thoughts Holding You Back

Do you sometimes feel like your mind’s little bitch? If so, you’re in good company. I’ve never asked anyone this question and got a “no for a response and I’ve hung out with some pretty amazing folks in my day. Our subconscious minds have been programmed with crap since the day we popped our little heads out of our mommies. …

Do You Have a Syndrome?

It seems like nowadays we have a label or diagnosis for everything; everything negative, that is. I’m especially amused by the word “syndrome.” I looked it up in the dictionary and it’s defined as a group of symptoms that consistently occur together. After discovering this, it occurred to me that I have quite a few “syndromes”. I’d like to share …

Choosing to be Happy

Choosing to be Happy I just finished having another meltdown moment on the computer. It happens almost every time I go online. I’m convinced that some people just aren’t cut out for it and I’m one of them. I was trying to learn how to manage my email list through Active Campaign when it happened. I pushed a button and …

3 Words to Tell Yourself Every Morning

3 Words to Tell Yourself Every Morning Every morning when I first wake up I feel like I have this dark, scary cloud hanging over me. I’m not sure why that is because my life is pretty damn good. It’s as if this is the resting point of my mind. When I look at the self-talk behind the thoughts that …

My Happy Place

My Happy Place What you focus on expands, and when you focus on the goodness in your life, you create more of it. Opportunities, relationships, even money flowed my way when I learned to be grateful no matter what happened in my life.  –Oprah Winfrey Her name was Cindy M. and we were both 13 years old. She had jet …

Happy New Year

HAPPY NEW YEAR! 4 Reasons Why I don’t do New Year’s Resolutions I have never been successful at keeping a New Year’s resolution. I don’t think I’ve ever even made it through the month of January. Here are a few reasons why… 1) Assigning a future date on a decision to change says that I may desire change but it’s …

Drawn to the Light

This time of year everything seems to slow down. The bears are getting ready to hibernate in the state I grew up in and all the trees are shedding their leaves and going into a similar state of dormancy. As I pull into my driveway at 6 pm I notice all the bugs gathered around my front door doing their graceful …

We are the Creators

Yesterday my daughter called me and told me she had relapsed and was now staying in a hotel with some other junkee she just met and getting high again. I immediately began running through the archives in my brain and pulled up all the thoughts I had created about what’s right and wrong and, just like that, I was feeling …

One Question to Ask When Revisiting Your Past

“If my memory serves me…” How many times have you heard someone say that? The truth is our memories can’t do anything else but serve us. We have a choice about how we allow it to serve us but we can’t stop it from being our faithful servant no matter what we do. I remember the day my son, Rob, …

I Want to be the Tony Robbins of Addicts…But I Can’t

As a man who spent most of his life feeling “less than” and trying desperately to fit in, embracing who I was never occurred to me. After all what value could I possibly offer to anyone? High school dropout, drug addict, convicted felon, liar, thief, cheat. I was pretty sure these were not attributes that anyone was aspiring to achieve …