3 Things An Addict Needs To Prevent Relapse and Live Their Dreams

 I was a chronic relapser. Frustration is no stranger to me. In fact I’m frustrated right now because I’m writing this whole blog over for a second time after my site crashed the first time. I laugh when I think about how disillusioned I was, early in my recovery, thinking my frustrations would somehow disappear as soon as I found …

Don’t Let Your Dick Size Ruin Your Life

Size Matters Only to a Sleeping Giant Life started out pretty good for me, growing up in a small town in Connecticut. We lived in a rural area where my daily playmates were my sister and the two girls who lived next door. I had male friends who would come over occasionally but most of my days were filled with …

Dad: How To Deal With Your Addicted Son

Before you give up, remember who is watching you. As a men’s recovery coach, I’m always encouraged when I get a phone call from a father with an addicted son. That’s because the majority of them come from moms who are desperate because they’re losing both their sons and husbands through this crisis. In most cases, a son’s path to …

Veronica Mae Boudle AKA Mom

Mom, You have been so many things to me. You were the den mother to me and 6 other young cub scouts when I didn’t know how to connect with other boys. You were the team mom and my loudest fan, giving me confidence as I stood on that pitcher’s mound filled with self-doubt. You were the Sunday school teacher …

7 Questions Every Father With An Addicted Son Should Ask Himself

One thing your son will not receive in treatment is you. You cannot outsource fatherhood. It makes me crazy when I read an article from the “experts” in the recovery space that starts off by telling fathers that their child’s addiction is not his fault. In my opinion, this type of thinking keeps a man from accessing his power in …

Hard Working Fathers And Drug Addict Sons.

What are men really providing for and protecting from? Suppose you gained everything in the world and lost your soul. Was it worth it?– Billy Graham I had my suicide all planned out. At 50 years old I reached that mid-life point where a man reflects on his life and his accomplishments and I didn’t like what I saw one …

How Men Can Help One Another Through Grief, Sorrow, and Anxiety

When was the last time you saw a man really cry? This was a topic raised in one of my men’s groups recently and most of the men (myself included) shared a feeling of discomfort when seeing another man cry. I would rather walk around naked in public than cry in front of another man. In order for you to …

6 Reasons Why People Relapse

Failure Is Not An Option…It’s A Necessity Relapse Sucks no matter how you slice it. The feelings around the stigma of addiction are bad enough. When you add the feeling of failure to the mix it can be crippling. The truth is recovery is a process that’s unique to each individual and whether it’s relapse or something else, everyone has …

6 Tips For Reinventing Fun In Your Marriage After Sobriety

When I began my recovery journey almost 25 years ago I was amazed at how many marriages ended in recovery. It seemed crazy to me that people were able to stick it out for decades of dysfunction during active addiction only to become casualties of the recovery process. Initially this didn’t make sense to me. Some cases were easier to …

Anger…3 Steps To Mastering The Art Of Pissed-Offery

You wouldn’t like me when I’m angry -Dr. Bruce Banner/The Incredible Hulk As I see it, all emotions lead back to one of two sources – LOVE and FEAR. Both of which are essential for a man’s survival. In my personal journey of recovery and in my professional life as a men’s coach, anger has been both the greatest catalyst …